Tell Your StorySharing the story of your own struggle with sexual sin is an incredibly important step. It is like drawing a line in the sand between who you have been and who you want to become. It can be a very emotional experience, so it is not one to be taken lightly. Sharing your history is also a purging; getting it outside of yourself and sharing it with another person.
Writing it out, you may begin to see patterns of behavior, stimulus and response that you have never seen before. It also sets a baseline from which you endeavor to rise. You will always know how dark it has been in the past, and that you do not want to return there. Keeping in mind that your goal is progress, not perfection, having a written history of this behavior serves as a clear reminder of where you have come from.
Here are a few simple guidelines to help you write out your own story.
- Think back to the first encounter you had with sexual sin. How old were you? What were the circumstances? Who else was involved? What thoughts and feelings do you remember about those first trists into the darkness?
- What specific behaviors did you find yourself engaging? Were they primarily alone or were others involved?
- How and at what age do you believe the behavior became entrenched in your life? What lengths did you go to hide your behavior from others? What may you have missed out on because of your secret?
- What do you actually enjoy about your sin?
- What vows have you made along the way? What promises have you made to God, yourself and others that you have not kept?
- Talk about your attempts to get free up till now. Why do you believe those attempts were not successful?
- Where do you believe God has been from the beginning of your story till now?
It may take more than one sitting to write everything all out, particularly if your history is long. That is okay, persevere and stick with it. It is quite common that months and even years after telling your story new things will come to mind that you haven't yet shared.
The goal isn't to rake yourself over the coals, shame yourself or display what a horrible person you are. In fact it is just the opposite. Telling your story is about freeing yourself from the past. It is declaring that you have been hurt, you have hurt others, the pain matters, but you will not let it control you any longer.
Telling your story is a vital step to Get Real, Get Honest and Get Free!