Purity Report Partner Guidelines
Your role as a Purity Report Partner is summed up in one word: safety. You aren't required to have any advice, wisdom or guidance to provide, just a listening ear. In fact, trying to take on too much as a Purity Report Partner actually detracts from the safety of the relationship.
It is important to understand, the person confessing their Purity Report to you is taking a risk being open and honest about a very sensitive area of their life. The last thing they need is someone justifying their fear of talking about their sexual struggles.
Here a few guidelines to help you create a safe and effective environment as a Purity Report Partner:
We firmly recommend that you not receive The Purity Report from someone of the opposite sex. The intimate details contained within The Purity Report would create an inappropriate relationship with members of the opposite sex.
Simply allow your friend to share their Purity Report with you. This in itself is an amazing blessing to them. Don't Give Advice
Perhaps the single most damaging response as a Purity Report Partner is to give advice, particularly if it is unsolicited. It communicates that you think you know better than they do and can quickly shut your friend down.
You cannot fix their problem. That is a job for God and your friend to work out. You get the privilege of walking with your friend and trusting that God will honor their confession.
Remember there is a difference between being an accountability partner and a mentor or counselor. Your primary role is to provide a safe place for your struggling friend to talk about their issue with sexual sin.
Reflect and Share in the Emotion
There are emotional elements to The Purity Report. It is a good practice to verbally reflect the emotions being shared back to your friend, even verbatim.
Example: "I understand you feel [fill in the emotion being shared] in this situation."
Sharing in the emotion is all about putting yourself in your friend's shoes. How would you feel if you were in their position?
Pray with your friend and pray for your friend. Ask the Lord to honor their confession, change their heart, renew their mind and give them wisdom. Stand with your friend and trust God together to develop their character and build their integrity.
Remember the Goal
The real goal of The Purity Report is open and honest confession. We believe what God says in the Bible regarding confession is true.
He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy.
- Proverbs 28:13
...if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin.
- 1 John 1:7
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
- 1 John 1:9
For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It [grace] teaches us to say "No" to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age...
- Titus 2:11-12
God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.
- James 4:6
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.
- James 5:16
Your friend has chosen to take God at his word
...that they will find mercy by confessing and renouncing their sin
...they they will receive forgiveness and purification through their confession
...that humbling themselves in this way releases God's grace, which teaches them to say "No" to worldly passions and ungodliness
...that through prayer and confession they may be healed
Thank you for being willing to parther with your friend as they embark upon this journey called The Purity Report. It is our hope that you will be richly blessed as God works in the life of your friend.